Wednesday 3: The ripples of cause and effect can continue for months, even years (and more in time and space), so it is not surprising that most of us opt to stay in our comfort zones. Yet to not say or do something, if we believe it to be right, can cause ripples of a different kind.
The other person can remain in blissful ignorance of their inconsiderate working practices or behaviour so sometimes it is important to speak out, not just for oneīs self.
Am I inconsiderate? I may not be selfless (who is?) but do not think I am either thoughtless and selfish - though no doubt some may think I am. However, I tend to keep in first gear with most things because unleashing the inner kraken can be pretty overwhelming to others. So that is a kind of consideration!
As for rising above an issue: it is admirable, though not always advisable. To rise above the actions of an abuser might make them abuse again. To rise above poor supplier relations might make them think such behaviour is acceptable. As it happens, with the latter, because of Ma and other concerns, I did try and withdraw a complaint, but the ball has already started rolling.
That said, every time I think of how I was fobbed off and then eventually sent a bill, makes my blood pressure rise (so obviously it is not something I do think about if I can help it!). Paying something does not nullify inconsideration. Yet it is not the people I have the issue with, but the belief. If there is a belief that such practices are acceptable, then that belief should be changed. Evasiveness to a direct question is not good for interpersonal relationships. Thatīs why most of us despise politicians. They answer everything but the question.
Life with other people, often means taking two steps forward and five back. I have been putting off visiting Ma as, for the last couple of days, she has been asking me to drive her to one of the NandDs (as a first step back home).
It is cowardly, but I cannot face sitting there, fielding her constant appeals (itīs bad enough on the `phone), especially since she seemed so peaceful when I did see her. The nurses say it will take a couple of months and it is not yet two weeks. Trying to remind her that she has been in and out of hospital several times over the last two years, just washes over her, and just now she sounded quite distraught. But what are we supposed to do?
Even when she stayed with one of the NandDs she asked to be taken home. But it is out of the question for someone who has a serious illness to be on her own and so far away. Please God she will see that soon too.
Tried to work and have failed miserably. Also contacted someone re an art product and the communication was definitely surreal. Anything specific I asked was ignored and the answers related to something - well, totally unrelated. Why are some people incapable of answering direct questions?
The watched kettle is because I know things are going to get better and I am trying to accept that everything will happen when it is supposed to happen. Doesnīt stop me watching though.
Tech News: I downloaded Google Chrome and then couldnīt find my mail, bookmarks or toolbar. So itīs back to IE7.
