Love is a much abused word.

archangel Ancient memes opine that we always hurt the ones we love. Rubbish. With love comes empathy and, if we truly loved, we would put ourselves out as an act of empathy. Love involves sacrifice to a degree.

Dad always used to say actions speak louder than words and it’s not far off what I believe.

When I was younger and should have been free to holiday in exotic places, I’d drive to Plymouth several times a year to spend time with my parents, because it made Dad happy. In fact my plan to travel around Europe after school, learning French, German, Italian and Spanish, died a death as Dad didn’t approve and was vociferously unhappy about the potential loss of regular contact.

After Dad died, I used to drive down to Plymouth to take Ma out for meals, or, when she was too poorly, to bring takeaways and have ‘picnics’ in her sitting room so she would know she was important to me.

I also used to treat relatives and friends to days and meals out – ‘shared time’.

Just remembered a ‘shared time’ I took a week off work to ferry a visiting NandD and their two small children from London to Plymouth and other places. Although they paid for the petrol, I was still bossed around like a servant and ended up in tears. Apologies, appreciation and gratitude subsequently received.

But these actions showed I loved them and they were important to me. If you love someone you do make proper time for them, not as part of a rushed schedule, or a one yearly reactive text message.

If you love them, you want to put yourself out for the loved one. To make that special gesture. To make them feel wanted and loved.

If someone is only on your radar as an annual duty, they don’t really love you. Certainly not as an individual soul. Duty may be a kind of caritas but it is not the kind of caritas that lifts up both souls.

Words are cheapened if they are reactive. Even more so when they are tagged onto a general lashing out of justification.

We are lucky to live in times when communicating with almost everyone is generally speedy and simple. Acknowledging someone’s existence in small ways shows they are alive in your world. To never do so, except when pushed, is actually anti-love . It shows a cruel indifference or self-absorption which is almost as bad.

The second sentence of this post (now deleted) mentioned Jesus being misinterpreted – or that I disagreed with Him. In fact, it was not what He said about love but about giving.

A NandD once said to me we get back what we give. Well that is clearly untrue – at least in this time and space, although I do believe there is a spiritual bank balance, and that giving puts you in credit.

But what of the Pauline take on Jesus in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 for this moment in time and space?

“Though I command languages both human and angelic — if I speak without love, I am no more than a gong booming or a cymbal clashing. And though I have the power of prophecy, to penetrate all mysteries and knowledge, and though I have all the faith necessary to move mountains if I am without love, I am nothing. Though I should give away to the poor all that I possess, and even give up my body to be burned if I am without love, it will do me no good whatever. Love is always patient and kind; love is never jealous; love is not boastful or conceited, it is never rude and never seeks its own advantage, it does not take offence or store up grievances. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but finds its joy in the truth. It is always ready to make allowances, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes. Love never comes to an end. But if there are prophecies, they will be done away with; if tongues, they will fall silent; and if knowledge, it will be done away with. For we know only imperfectly, and we prophesy imperfectly; but once perfection comes, all imperfect things will be done away with. When I was a child, I used to talk like a child, and see things as a child does, and think like a child; but now that I have become an adult, I have finished with all childish ways. Now we see only reflections in a mirror, mere riddles, but then we shall be seeing face to face. Now I can know only imperfectly; but then I shall know just as fully as I am myself known. As it is, these remain: faith, hope and love, the three of them; and the greatest of them is love.”

So to keep caritas and not ‘take offence or store up grievances’, what is to be done if time and again nothing ever changes?

It is human to feel pain. Ask Jesus! That is the continuing challenge of the human experience. Sensible people avoid putting their hands back in the fire but isn’t that what spiritual evolution requires?

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The individual

Wise El on Life has been getting a lot of flak in the press since Margaret Thatcher’s death. She has, say the Lefts, created a generation or three of selfish individuals at the expense of the kindly caring community.

In death, Thatcher is still demonised – and misquoted (“I think we’ve been through a period where too many people have been given to understand that if they have a problem, it’s the government’s job to cope with it. ‘I have a problem, I’ll get a grant.’ ‘I’m homeless, the government must house me.’ They’re casting their problem on society. And, you know, there is no such thing as society. There are individual men and women, and there are families. And no government can do anything except through people, and people must look to themselves first. It’s our duty to look after ourselves and then, also to look after our neighbour. People have got the entitlements too much in mind, without the obligations. There’s no such thing as entitlement, unless someone has first met an obligation.”).

Miners on the other hand, who held the country to ransom till she grabbed both the country’s reins and her warrior’s spear, are sanctified, their festering hatred treated as gospel while ignoring some unpalatable truths – “…there were more pit closures under Harold Wilson than under Thatcher. For comparison: 406 pits closed in the 1960s, with 315,000 job losses; only 146 closed in the 1980s, with 173,000 jobs lost…” (Tom Chivers).

I still recall the electricity cuts, the three day weeks, rubbish piling high on the streets, the dead unburied, not knowing if my job was safe – and all because of the ripple effect of striking miners. Not that today’s chatterati seem to remember – or want to remember. Striking miners bullied those who chose to work – some community spirit – harassing and intimidating women and children and for what? To keep open uneconomic nationalised industries? If they were viable, why not buy them from the nation?

Actually I remember voicing just such a thought at the time. Seemed eminently logical to me. But far too many people want to pass the buck. Echoing a thought from my last blog post, too many just want someone else to provide them with a 9-5, Monday to Friday job. They do not want the responsibility of running a company and a workforce but still demand rights.

It is the individual mind that is the risk-taker, carrying the weight of however many employees they may have, burdened by excessive regulation, most of which serves to stop them hiring more.

(I am excluding here the old boys’ network, the merry-go-round of chairmen and chief executives, those who hog corporate jobs, usually do a lousy job while lining their pockets with ever higher salary packages, then swing off into a similar position elsewhere even if sacked.)

Yet the individual mind, from Einstein to Gandhi to David Livingstone and Joan of Arc, has created immeasurable good for the community. Even unstarry individual minds up and down the land form local protest groups for a perceived greater good. That local individual mind is both the heart and the limbs of the resistance.

Communities benefit from the efforts of the individual usually without getting personally involved. Most (as we know locally here with unwanted house development) are totally clueless but quick to moan when they can’t get their child into school or to see a doctor. Individuals keep the flame burning not communities.

The individual mind is free to think and often to act. The community mind, even down several generations, is boxed and blinkered at best, putting the brakes on change, and sometimes passing down a poisonously negative influence at worst.

The individual mind is often a voice of conscience while the community mind more often than not wants simple low-humming life.

Communities are rarely the life-enhancing support mechanisms we are frequently lead to believe. While many do operate a much-needed controlling hand over those with similar ideals, the other hand is usually enforcing such delights as honour killing, genital mutilation, marriage within class (a black woman is marrying into the ranks of the British aristocracy in June – something that is noteworthy even these days) and so on. If people do not conform within their given communities, they are ostracised or worse (see above re non-striking miners).

Sportsmen and women in pushing the boundaries of their specialty need to be single-minded. Selfish, even. Individual.

However, their achievements become achievements for the community. So there is not one without the other. The advantages gained by the individual are spread out to the wider whole in some way. Otherwise we all dumb down to the detriment of all.

In the dim and distant days when I had to fill out a personality profile test during some job interviews, I would invariably get ‘source of ideas’ and ‘high creative influence’. But I would also get ‘good team player’.

This was a brilliant mix if I was interviewed by a Sales Director or Managing Director – but a one-way ticket out the door if I was unfortunate enough to see anyone in HR first.

“Too individual” has been said to me and/or about me more often than I can recall.

Needless to say I objected passionately. It is wholly possible to be individual and a good team player (ie to have community spirit). Indeed I even started a newsletter after one such rejection – ISJ – the Individual in Society. Me with my individual thoughts and creative bent, trying to help society in my own way.

Plus ça change.

Eugene Leo Edward Labon – never forgotten

PS Am posting another blog to test out whether the images will show as opposed to the Gravatar or nothing.

Art is informed by the life we lead, by our thoughts, experiences and desires. My blog posts are either streams of consciousness, wrestling with spiritual concepts or other experiences on this particular spiritual journey. For examples of how this translates into my art, please visit my gallery.

Profit From Unlimited Thinking is a five-part course in creative thinking and managing change.

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Margaret Thatcher’s death,

Form From Chaosminers, infinite resentment slow burning to even lengthier hatred, the Welfare State… and Jesus. Apart from Jesus, it’s not such an odd combination for those with bitter memories – even if those memories are gained via books or social indoctrination ie not from personal experience. People seem to need to hate and no end of rational argument is going to change that.

But, as usual, I am coming from a different angle, the angle of cause and inevitable effect.

When Jesus said “The man who has two coats must share with the man who has none…” did He give any thought to how that would evolve? That the original man in need would end up taking as a right much like we are seeing in today’s Welfare State?

Thatcher probably meant well with privatisation, home ownership and bank deregulation. Yet every good intention eventually grows wildly out of control to the detriment of all. Is that really what Jesus meant?

We have been giving the proverbial ‘extra coat’ to Africa and other third world countries yet still they remain unable to help themselves. Meanwhile our giving goes to keeping a handful of dictators and their women in huge luxury, as well as misrouted largesse in other parts of the world. Is that really what Jesus meant?

There are yet more inter-related metaphysical thoughts that bother me: why did miners fight so furiously to keep such awful jobs? What’s the difference between an uneconomic mine or manufacturing plant and the workhouse?

And is a workhouse mentality really what a soul should aspire to?

If I had no higher purpose (self-perceived or otherwise) I would not want to live.

To me, soul evolution comes from taking personal responsibility. Yet these people are, to me, either evil or stupid, certainly very low level incarnations.

They are almost parasitic incarnations, with their only creative impetus being to hate and to destroy while requiring others to take responsibility for them from birth to death – and woe betide anyone who tries to effect change

Anyway, RIP Margaret Thatcher – fine and much-needed warrior for Britain.

Art is informed by the life we lead, by our thoughts, experiences and desires. My blog posts are either streams of consciousness, wrestling with spiritual concepts or other experiences on this particular spiritual journey. For examples of how this translates into my art, please visit my gallery.

Profit From Unlimited Thinking is a five-part course in creative thinking and managing change.

All my books are available from Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.com or to order from all good booksellers. Euphrosene Labon Mind Body Spirit Artist Author Writer